Palaver n.

1. Idle chatter. 2. Beguiling talk — v. =ered, -ering, -ers. –vt. To flatter or cajole. –vi. To chatter idly.

I am not a fan of idle chit chat. It has always seemed disingenuous to me. As I read more about introverts and extroverts, I see that I am not the only one; many introverts feel the way I do. I find small talk draining, in fact, I dread it, to the point where I don’t want to go to parties or new events where I may not know people, for fear of enduring endless palaver.

And yes,  I certainly am beguiled by small talk. I don’t understand the point of it. What is the purpose of talking about the weather, and other bland commentary? Small talk has always seemed make feel as though I’m set adrift in a sea of language that continues on into perpetuity, and for those who love palaver, good for them! But please recognize that not everyone else does. Please make the effort to dive a little deeper, for that is where true connection lies. Small talk is not memorable; in my opinion conversation that displays vulnerability will always win over palaver.

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